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eHarmony (e Harmony ) Review

eharmony reviewby Jason Tudor

Compatibility matchmaking at its best, the eHarmony dating site helps singles seeking committed relationships find partners based on deep levels of compatibility. Sort of like having your own personal matchmaker, eHarmony uses a comprehensive personality questionnaire to do most of the matching for you, then provides you with member profiles and photos, and lets you do the choosing.

Unlike casual dating sites, eHarmony requires a greater investment of time and effort. The questionnaire makes creating a profile no quick affair. Doing it properly can take up to 60 minutes, so don’t cheat. The questions, many of which seem to repeat themselves, are pretty basic. But – apparently – there is a pretty complicated process going on. The site says that there are “29 dimensions that create compatibility”… I’ll take their word for it. After all, it was created by a doctor.

Once the questionnaire is completed, eHarmony (or its computers, at least), crunches the numbers and sends you a pretty interesting personality profile for you to read. Personally, it didn’t say much about me I didn’t already know, but all in all it was a thorough look. Using this profile, as well as a few other standard details like geographic location, ethnicity, and religion, eHarmony finds some matches for you. Then, and there’s no way to stop this, it emails both of you and tells you about the match.

The process doesn’t stop there, though. You can check out the other person’s partial profile (which is missing quite a bit of information), and decide whether or not you want to start communication. If so, there are two ways to do so.

The first is gradual, controlled by eHarmony, and has several “rounds”. Round 1, you choose and ask some closed ended questions like “If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, how would you respond?” and presented with some multiple-choice answers. Round 2, you exchange “must haves” (chemistry, wit) or “can’t stands” (grudges, materialistic). Round 3, you write and exchange your own open ended questions. Round 4, it’s open just like most dating sites: you are given an email address and an easy way to exchange photos.


  • 1 Month: $59.95 / month
  • 3 Months: $39.95 / month
  • 3 Months: $29.95 / month
  • 1 Year: $19.95 / month

The second is “fast track”… which basically means skipping the first three rounds of the gradual process and going straight to plain old communication like you would at any other site.

You cannot communicate on eHarmony without becoming a subscriber, however. One month on its own is $59.95, and a year – which gets you two books by the aforementioned doctor/creator – is $239.40 (less than $20 a month). The good part is that there is a seven day no risk trial period. Check for promotional coupons before buying a subscription at the regular price.

eHarmony has two major differences from most dating sites. For one, physical appearance is not a focus. While the questionnaire does ask you how attractive you think you are, and asks how important such matters are in finding a match, it does not ask for much about your weight or eye and hair color. In fact, it doesn’t allow you to see photos without a paid subscription.

Another difference is that this matchmaking site focuses on long term relationships, and has no ability to match those of the same sex. The FAQ section explains this by saying that the personality matching works only when applied to someone looking for marriage with someone of the opposite sex. 

eHarmony is a great dating site if you like things simple and done for you. The way in which the site is set up, and the way in which it does the matching for you, is no doubt perfect for those looking for a traditional long term relationship. But if you’re looking for something a little more complex, or simply like to do things yourself,  a site like Perfect Match may be a better choice. It uses similar matchmaking technology, and allows users to search for matches on their own.

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